Doing the work
When people say “do the work,” it can sound kind of intense or vague, right? What does that even mean?
“Doing the work” just means being willing to look at the stuff inside that needs attention. The old wounds, unhelpful patterns, the emotions we’ve been avoiding or suppressing…and actually doing something about it.
It’s not about being perfect or having it all figured out. It’s about being honest with yourself, noticing what’s coming up, and gently exploring it instead of pushing it away. If you’re looking to move forward in your life, take a seat. Sitting with your feelings to actually “feel” them allows you to release them. “The only way out is through” - Robert Frost
And here’s the thing….doing the work looks different for everyone. For you, it might be talking through things in therapy, reading, journaling, or working with a coach. The key is finding grace for yourself and that happens through understanding. It will also likely include learning how to set boundaries, reconnecting with your body, having uncomfortable conversations, and finally slowing down and resting.
There’s no gold star or checklist. It’s messy, personal, and never really “done.”
The goal is “peace”, the practice is finding grace for yourself every day.
Some days, it might look like deep reflection. Other days, it’s just getting out of bed and being kind to yourself.
The important part is just showing up for yourself with curiosity, compassion, and a little patience. That’s where healing begins.
Doing the work doesn’t just change your relationship with yourself, it transforms the way you relate to others, too.
As you heal, you become more aware of your triggers, more grounded in your truth, and more able to communicate with clarity and care. You learn to listen better, set boundaries without guilt, and show up with more empathy, presence, and authenticity. And that naturally leads to deeper, healthier, and more honest connections.
Because when you do the work, you stop relating from your wounds……and you start connecting from your wholeness.
“Doing the work” is emotional; It can be heavy and it can get worse before it gets better. Is it worth it? YES! It creates the path that leads to the life you desire.
